Of course, this is not just about your team members, it is also about caring for your own health, wellbeing and engagement. If you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of those who work for you. To manage in this world of uncertainty, you need to find a sense of stability for yourself. This is particularly true when it comes to having the capacity to listen, and allow space for employees’ emotions, and to manage the complexity of human relationships. Sometimes ‘giving someone a good listening to’ is the best thing you can do for their wellbeing – even if there is nothing you can do to resolve the issues they are raising.
As mentioned above, having healthy, engaged, high performing employees is part of looking after yourself because you will get better results and be able to address problems that arise before they become crises. Good trusting relationships with your team can also mean that the team is there to support you with challenges that arise in your work and life: you can delegate tasks to them, draw on their ideas and expertise, and gain a sense of meaning from the team’s achievements and appreciation. So, caring for your team is part of caring for yourself and vice versa.
Importantly, being a caring, positive, supportive manager will be easier if you can take a caring, positive, supportive approach to yourself. Compassion and self-compassion are closely inter-linked and both draw on a sense of common humanity. When we recognise that struggles, emotional and physical pain, and personal inadequacy are all part of our shared human experience – that they are experiences that we all go through, rather than something that happens to ‘me’ alone – we are much better able to be kind to ourselves and to others.